What Is a Breakthrough?
A breakthrough is an event that happens in an instant.
It’s a change in consciousness.
It’s a heightened understanding.
It’s a light switch flipping on in your mind. You understand a concept you couldn’t before.
Breaking through is not physical. It’s not linear.
So what is it?
It’s letting go of an old way of thinking, feeling, or being.
Some people seek out ways to break through… BUT others must break through because they are facing dire consequences.
That was the case for me. I spent twenty years of my life as a drug addict and alcoholic. In the last two years of my alcohol addiction, I was drinking a gallon of cheap vodka daily and barely eating. I would wake up with alcohol poisoning and often find myself in the bathroom vomiting. It became a ritual. I would make it through the morning just waiting to get to the time when I could have my first drink again.
My alcoholism was so extreme that I reached a point where I thought I was having a heart attack. After going to a doctor, he told me I was having delirium tremors and my body was shutting down.
He said, “Son, you’ve only got one drink left.”
This was a pivotal point in my life. It was either break through or die. I don’t recommend you break through this way. You don’t have to wait until your back is against the wall to change.
Breaking Through is a Choice
That day I chose life.
I checked into a county detox program in Stockton, California.
This place was no Passages in Malibu. It wasn’t the Betty Ford Clinic. This was a state-run detox center for drug addicts and alcoholics. It’s the place where I chose to commit to changing how I was living and being.
I’ve overcome a lot in my life.
Many times I found myself going up the down staircase.
I’ve gone from being incarcerated, homeless and broke… to becoming a millionaire in two different businesses.
I also have twenty-plus years of experience as a success and addiction coach where I assist men and women who are seeking positive change.
I’ve had the privilege of seeing many of my clients over the years reinvent themselves and break through to new levels of consciousness and success.
To date I’ve coached over twelve thousand clients—that’s sixty thousand hours of personal one-on-one coaching! I walk my clients through the events that have shaped the feelings that have led to their addicted state.
Addictions are not just physical.
Most addictions start as an emotional addiction.
Prolonged feelings of guilt, shame, anger, hate, resentment, overwhelm, fear, abandonment, and rejection are the states of being that create addictions. The addictions I see most often are procrastination, perfectionism, disorganization, under-earning, chronic debiting, gambling, drugs, alcohol, bulimia, anorexia, overeating, codependence, and sex.
When you experience a breakthrough, you create “aha” moments, synchronicity, and synchro-destiny. Breaking through means that you decide, you commit, you understand, and you know.
It’s a “one day at a time” process.
Your adversary is your mindset. This is the emotionally addicted self that keeps you in a state of anger, hate, resentment, guilt, shame, abandonment, rejection, overwhelmed feelings, grief, and apathy. These emotions create anxiety, which results in the fight-or-flight response in your body.
Fight-or-flight is a physiological reaction that occurs in response to a perceived harmful event, attack, or threat to survival. It’s a stress response that triggers the release of hormones. It prepares your body to either fight and face the threat… OR flee to safety.
This originated when our ancient ancestors were surrounded by predators and faced danger in their environment. This was their survival mechanism.
Today, even though you are not in physical danger, your mind can trigger this response from thinking and feeling states of anxiety. This means you can trigger the response by thinking about situations that are imaginary. You can imagine situations that haven’t happened yet or have happened in the past.
For many people, living in fight-or-flight is a regular occurrence. It becomes a familiar state of anxiety and a familiar state of being.
Fear, doubt, and overwhelmed states of being are what keep them avoiding success. They hold on to a set of feelings based on events from their life.
And these events shape how they react, behave, and stay stuck. They stay in a state of not understanding why they are the way they are. They don’t understand why they do what they do.
Living in an “I AM” State of Being
A large percent of society is unaware, overwhelmed, overweight, and unsure.
They live in a repressed emotional state.
If this is you and you seek to change, then breaking through would be your commitment. You cannot break through by being interested. You break through by being committed.
For you to break through what is familiar, it’s important that you understand why you do what you do. If you don’t understand why you do what you do…
…you will continue to create the same identity, the same feelings, and the same emotions. You become emotionally addicted to the same set of familiar circumstances.
(Listen to my podcast Releasing Negative Thinking: Creating Positive Self-esteem to assist you with your breakthrough process.)
Breaking through is not “How do I?” Breaking through is “I am.”
“I Am” means the spiritual self. Affirmations beginning with I AM align your mind with your spirit. I AM tells the universe what you want to co-create in your life.
So… what are you telling the universe? I AM sick of my situation? If you say this, you are telling the universe and yourself I AM SICK.
Is that the message you want to send to your mind, body, and spirit?
To affirm means to state as a fact. If you want to break through, affirm this in a positive and committed statement.
“I AM breaking through my barriers.”
“I AM breaking through the wall.”
“I AM breaking through my stories.”
“I AM breaking through that which I hold on to… and I commit to letting go.”
In the breakthrough process, it’s imperative that you commit one day at a time.
When you can focus on one minute, one hour, and one day at a time, you won’t get overwhelmed by the process.