Do you remember when you were ten years old?
What were your dreams?
What about at age fourteen or twenty-one?
What did you want for your future?
Now, answer this… What are your dreams now?
When I ask people this question, I hear about paying off credit cards and mortgages. I ask, “Is that what you dreamt about when you were fourteen and twenty-one?”
Today, it’s time to dream again.
When you start dreaming, you can create a vision that’s worth pursuing. That is the first step to dramatically improve your life over the course of the next two years.
Your vision is your guide. It’s your compass to take you to the good life. If you don’t know where you are going, how are you going to get there?
Many people have big goals, big dreams, and big aspirations. The challenge is they have ten-cent habits. Creating a vision alone is not enough. You must develop an action plan and execute it daily.
This means you have short-term goals and long-term goals.
You have a ninety-day action plan.
You are responsible and accountable to your vision and your goals. When your habits, mindset, and skills are in alignment with your vision… your breakthrough is inevitable.
As you create your vision, you can find your purpose.
I was an addict for fourteen years. I was destitute during the last couple of years in my addicted state. I lost the will to live. I lost my vision. I had no purpose.
When I got clean and sober at age thirty-one, I felt renewed. I felt like a new lease of life had been given me.
It was a second chance.
I committed to myself that I would never relapse again. I have been able to master my emotions to accomplish that task.
No reverting to my old self.
I am here, now, and present one day at a time. My purpose is to live a good life.
In my speaking, coaching, and writing, my purpose is to teach people how to break through so they can live a good life as well.
So… if you want to improve your life, find your purpose.
To be purpose-driven is to find a niche that inspires you. You may not know your purpose right now, but it’s vital that you find it. “I want to be a millionaire.” That’s a great goal, but for what purpose? What happens when you reach financial success? Have you then lost your purpose?
Living a good life should be one of your purposes. You determine what a good life means.
Become a Goal Getter
Goals are what you create to monitor your progress. They motivate you to take action. Goals are what inspire you to achieve. They give you a sense of accomplishment.
Goal getting is when you go for the gold medal, the championship ring, or the trophy.
You require short- and long-term goals. I recommend that you set goals for your day, your week, your month, ninety days, six months, a year, and two years. If you own a business, how many prospecting and follow-up calls will you make today? How many sales will you close this week? How much income will you create this month? These are the type of questions you ask yourself when you are goal setting.
Your goals are your plan for success.
They must be clearly defined.
Your goals must also have meaning. Choosing an arbitrary monetary number as income goal can lose its luster after achieved.
Ask yourself clarifying questions to uncover the WHY behind your goals. When you know WHY you are going for a goal, you will be more accountable to your goals.
Your Sense of Urgency
Your sense of urgency determines your timeline for achieving a task or goal.
It means you are relentless about reaching your goal.
You are inspired to take action daily. You don’t wait around for the right time because the right time is N-O-W.
You decide first and learn as you go.
There is no waiting until you listen to enough podcasts, go to all the trainings, and read a plethora of books.
Your sense of urgency should be a relaxed energy, not a frantic emergency.
You cannot transform or change in an overwhelmed state. You don’t perform your best when your back is against the wall. You perform your best when you are at ease. Relaxing means letting go. You release the anxieties about outcomes that have or haven’t happened.
You, reading this content now, have the unequivocal ability to break through. Start with your vision, your goals, and a sense of relaxed urgency. Start with an inner knowing that you can achieve the outcome you seek.
That inner knowing will lead you to improve your life.
Committing to the Process
In one form or another, we are all overcoming emotional addictions.
Changing your life means you must commit to recovery.
Recovery is a state of being. It’s not simply quitting a behavior. Recovery creates a new life. You don’t come out of the process. You learn the inner game of recovery.
In recovery, there are no more cheat days.
You become your best.
In the process of changing your life, you consciously grow.
When you commit to the process…
…you will become voracious at learning the skills required to reach your goals.
When you commit to the process, you will not be denied. You will step into accountability and practice responsibility.
Accountability becomes a skill, a habit, and a mindset.
To develop these qualities, check out my blog post: My Top 5 Favorite Self-help Books: Improve Your Life Now.
Building Emotional Resilience
Emotional resilience means that you move out of anxiety and into awareness.
In emotional resiliency, you live in a state of recovery where you do not relapse. Many people relapse emotionally. This means they revert back to a familiar feeling. It’s a neurochemical addiction.
To be emotionally resilient, you separate your feelings from the events of your past. This skill requires awareness and presence. Accountability occurs when you interrupt a feeling in the moment. You are able to neutralize it.
This process is emotional sobriety.
You no longer allow your body to live in past events. Your body no longer runs your brain.
Emotional resilience means you are able to adapt and adjust to challenges. You stay grounded and are solution-oriented.
Emotional resiliency means mastering your emotions.
You don’t let your emotions take you out of the game.
You don’t shut down because you have a challenging moment.
You don’t lie in bed all day because you are hiding from life.
When you are resilient, you focus on results. You don’t let conflict or a roadblock derail you emotionally. You focus on solutions. You keep your eye on your goals. You may have moments that are challenging, but you don’t linger in negative emotions.
This means you don’t have a bad day… only a few challenging moments.
You look adversity in the face, and you don’t back down. You learn to be accountable to yourself, and you are willing to pay the price to improve your life.
On this journey, the price you pay will be the full price.
You don’t improve your life by wanting and wishing.
By the way, if you want to dig deeper into the topic of emotional resiliency, listen to my podcast: EPISODE 424 – 6 TRAITS OF EMOTIONALLY RESILIENT PEOPLE BUILDING EMOTIONAL RESILIENCE
A select few might get lucky, but luck doesn’t tend to last.
I’d rather be good than lucky.
If you want to improve your life, the price must be paid. That means you do the inner work. You develop yourself. You learn new skills. You develop new habits. You evolve your mindset.
Paying the price means you are tenacious about breaking through.